I recently came across this post via The Knot about 7 easy steps to throwing a bachelorette party. Yes, if you are a novice at bachelorette party planning these are all great tips for organizing your first one. However, I felt the impulse to create my own post equipped with 10 legitimate, realistic do’s and don’ts.
1. Do NOT invite every single girl you know. A Bachelorette party should be an event you will never forget with your closest friends. In my experience I find that keeping it intimate is best and much simpler to organize. Put a cap on it around 12 guests- especially if you are going out-of-town for the big weekend. If the 12 you have on the list can’t all attend don’t feel obligated to fill the spots. We all know that you have 25 girl friends that you adore. However, they will most likely be at your wedding to celebrate with you so don’t feel the need to invite everyone. You will be happier that you didn’t when the time comes.
2. If you are planning an out-of-town affair make sure that everyone pays you upfront. Even if you are asking for funds three months in advance- have them write you a check or send cash. That way if anyone backs out at the last-minute who had originally committed to going- you are not left with the extra tab. ** Make sure you put deadlines on when money is owed. You do not have to be OCD about it, but it is way easier to keep order if you stick to certain dates.
3. Try to be as considerate as possible. If you are a bride planning a wedding on a super tight budget- assume your bachelorette party guests are on a tight budget as well. Odds are not everyone is as financially stable as you assume. With that being said- Do NOT expect your friends and bridesmaids to shell out $600-$1000 for your bachelorette bash or at least confirm that they have the means to do so beforehand. You can still have a blast going out in your hometown or the nearest big city if not everyone is on board for a Vegas weekend. Chances are you have a close friend planning this- make sure she knows everyone is on a budget and to put a cap on it.
4. Brides- Do NOT expect your friends to cover your part. Your maids have already spent $300 on that designer dress you wanted, $50 for the shoes, $40 for makeup & hair,$100 on gifts, and $250 for a hotel room. Yes all these things come with the territory, but if you cannot afford to cover your part for your bachelorette party then you should probably consider making other plans. At least take into account what your girls have already put up to be part of the big day.
5. Make sure everyone who you have invited is on board with the plans. Not everyone is comfortable with male strippers. Or if it is a budgetary concern forego the Mani’s and Pedi’s and have your own nail party. Everyone has a cabinet full of OPI and Essie anyways.
6. Travel plans these days aren’t cheap. Gas is outrageous, flight prices are always changing, and sometimes your time isn’t worth the cost of a 2 or 3 day trip. If not everyone is accessible to leave town but you want your friends to be there then you may want to rearrange your plans. If changing the plan is not a possibility you could even organize a girl’s night out for your hometown ladies then do a weekend away with your bridesmaids. There is ALWAYS another way to include people.
7. Instead of expecting your ladies to host shower after shower for you, consider combining your bachelorette weekend into a party/shower. No one wants to see you opening lingerie in front of your 80-year-old grandmother. Save the lingerie shower and dirty games for your girl’s weekend away.
8. Your bride should not have to pay for her drinks, however it is a nice gesture for her to buy everyone a round of shots.
9. Don’t let your bride wear a penis crown or anything phallic out in public. She will look back on the pictures and regret it. Save the wieners for the lingerie shower.
10. If you have certain friends who cannot handle their booze then cut them off or designate a babysitter. Your BFF doesn’t need an 8th Vodka Tonic. Order her a club soda and call it a night.